The other day someone asked on Instagram if I have balance in my life in reference to all of my training.  I use my Instagram account as a running account, and it’s full of training pictures, but it still made me feel a little defensive.  I read the post right before I went to bed, so I went through various stages of answering this question in my head throughout the night (made possible when your baby wakes you up in the night and starts the thought process over again).


I woke up clear headed with my answer.  No, I don’t have balance.  That’s not my goal.  If we’re honest, not many people have balance, whether they are training for crazy goals, or just trying to survive motherhood in a world that has traffic and work and grocery shopping and housework and relationships to attend to.

I don’t think there have been many stages in my life where I lived a balanced life.  I’ve always lived in extremes. I finished first in my class in high school, skipping my senior year and going to college early.  I didn’t drink before I turned 21. I was not good at math growing up, so I majored in engineering and ended up getting my masters degree in it.  I finished the masters degree in 1.5 years, while my peers took 3+ years to finish.  I married the first person who I ever went on more than three dates with.  I never missed a workout until I hired a coach and she made me so tired that I finally took rest days seriously.

Like most runners, I’m a bit A type, and I also really love to train and get stronger and faster.  So this past year of running postpartum has been a lot of work, but it has also been extremely rewarding.  I compared my Boston Marathon experience to Disney for adults.  In that case, training for my first 100 mile race and completing it was heaven.  And the feeling of satisfaction in training a little harder to get my sub-3 marathon was the icing on the cake.  While I can do it, I’m going to keep going.  I have a supportive husband and a baby who fits right in to the schedule.  It’s hard work, and I have to make sacrifices, but that’s where I am in life right now.  Unbalanced.  🙂


Is balance one of your goals?

8 thoughts on “(Un)balanced

  1. Balance is absolutely one of my goals. But being non-type A, and a bit of a hippie at heart, I think I look at it a little differently. Running allows me to achieve balance since it’s provides me with an outlet. Life is hard. Parenting is hard. Running alleviates some of that pressure. Running also aligns with my core values: health, family, passion, growth, and contribution; it can fall under any of these categories to be honest. I don’t think your life is unbalanced because you choose to fill some of it with running. If anything your life more balanced because of what running does for you. xoxo

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  2. A wise mentor once told me that balance is a meaningless concept when not qualified with a time frame – is it impossible to live a “balanced” second because there are only so many things you can do in any given second! As a VP at a well known publicly traded company, she aimed for balance over a period of two weeks. In each running two-week period she wanted to have a date night with her husband, one-on-one time with each of her two kids, one significant work victory, and a few other things.

    We have this crazy idea that “balance” means a super happy household that we run like Martha Stewart, perfection in work/childcare/personal development/fitness, and the time to relax with a friend and glass of wine on the weekends. I think balance is simply effective stewardship of all of the gifts we’ve been given. They all come with a season, and some seasons look crazy, but that doesn’t mean there’s no balance. I think you’re doing great, mama!


    • Thank you so much for this very thoughtful response! Just the angle I needed to hear! I love that–“balance is simply effective stewardship of the gifts we’ve been given.” Will be holding onto this for a while. 😘


  3. I agree with above comments – there are different seasons in our lives that affect us. When I was training for my first marathon last year I felt crazy out of balance but looking back I think that outlet actually led to better relationships with people and more productivity because I was thinking clearly. While I’ve been taking a break from running for about 6 months eek cos I was burnt out – sure I’ve had more free time but it’s actually left me feeling grumpy and a bit sluggish!!! I’m a nicer person when I run haha!


    • I can totally relate to your sentiment about training. I always love the training memories even more than the actual race. I hope you find your way back to running and get out of your rut soon! Seasons for everything and running will always be there when you are ready. 🙂


  4. What kind of treadmill do you have? I have a three month old so running at home is going to need to happen more because I just can’t get to the gym as often as I’d like. Finding that combination of me time and family time that works is so unique for each person!


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